— Any tips you’d give to other couples, apart from separating work and life? Eastlyn: Every person has a unique personality or perspective, and so we can’t speak to everyone, but looking back through our relationship something does stand out that has been beneficial for our own marriage. We don’t live separate lives. He doesn’t have “his thing,” and I don’t have “my thing” that we do apart from each other. His interests are mine, and mine are his. Even if it’s something I may not be drawn to or particularity interested in, like football for example—if it’s something he enjoys, I want to participate and at least try to learn about why he enjoys it. He does the same for me. I enjoy thrifting, and so he’ll go to thrift stores with me. We make our individual interests into our date night. I’m not suggesting that we don’t have individuality or antimony, but in a relationship like marriage, what’s important to him needs to be important to me, and vise versa. It’s been the fault line of our relationship. Joshua didn’t start photography because he was interested in it or even enjoyed it, in fact it was a huge challenge for him. Now, even if it’s not for the same reason as me, it’s a huge passion of his. And likewise, when he started doing leather work, I wasn’t particularly drawn to it, but I can and do use my strengths to help propel his love for creating into a growing business. We’re a team. That’s what we signed up for. |